The job of your dreams was more real than ever before. It was down to two candidates –and you were one of them. But just as you were ready to pop open the champagne… it was offered to the other person.
You feel frustrated, angry, disappointed and sad. Although you have strong feelings about this rejection, there is no point in questioning or getting depressed over it. Instead, consider these 5 things:
1. Don’t take it personal. Job offers as well as raises and promotions involve a lot of subjective decision making. This means that many times you could be the most qualified person, but the other individual came across as fitting in better in the organization.
2. Don’t get angry. Yes, feelings of anger, frustration and disappointment are normal, but keep your emotions in check and don’t let your feelings get the better of you. More importantly: Do not take out your anger on the employer or on the candidate who did get the job.
3. Seek feedback. Once you have controlled your emotions find out how you can improve for any future opportunities. If the job was within your organization, talk privately with your boss and discuss the situation. Ask him/her specific questions about why they went with the other candidate. Feedback will help you grow –and learn. If the job was with another employer, ask for a short phone call where they can provide you with some insights of what you could improve for future opportunities.
4. Analyze the situation. Take some time to think about that job and why it was so important for you to be the chosen candidate. Is there another job that can offer you the same opportunity?
5. Be proactive. Once you’re done feeling bad for the situation, make yourself accessible to others, so that when another opportunities arises you will be on their radar. If you would like to be considered for future opportunities say just that. Remember: You were one of the finalists for the job, so there’s a good chance they’ll keep you in mind for other possibilities in the future.